It takes two to tango
"It is a man's world".....is it? They say "anything a man can do, a woman can do even better". Universal truths both these statements are, but when applied to marriage (or even serious relationships) and especially the fidelity clause, which of these "truths" take centre stage?
A woman has just caught her husband cheating. What should be the logical response? Does she commit an act of her own to even the score? Should she forgive him, and make things better? Or should she walk away from the marriage with her integrity intact?
I think we should take into consideration reasons why people cheat on their partners. Some of the common excuses given include, "I'm sorry, I just wanted to try something new" or "I'm sorry, I don't know how to tell you this but we're in love" and others just blame it on the devil. The first thing you'd realise is, the act has already been committed and nothing you say or do can take it back. So you'd move on to the next question, "what do we do now"? Some people want to take some time and cry about it, and that's alright but you have got to make a decision (fast). Is the marriage worth saving? Is there a guarantee this won't be a repeat process? Am I willing to forgive and make amends? Or do I walk away on my own terms now? How about a little transgression of my own...even the score?
A word of advice here:- evening the score can do no good. Building a house on lies and deceit is just prolonging the inevitable, as eventually things would get overheated and the marriage (like a battered vehicle) will breakdown too.
All the time, I hear people say "if I ever catch my wife cheating,it's OVER", but is that really the case? 90% of those talking are single men. Marriage is a sacred bond, that transcends the wedding ceremony and only those who experience it can explain it. Fidelity is essential between BOTH spouses, but regrettably these days a lot of couples see it as an afterthought. I believe, reconciliation should be the first option between cheating partners and only when such differences can't be resolved, should an amicable parting of ways be a course of action. Payback isn't even an option....it only leads to more hurt.
Thursday again, and we are feeling nostalgic ....not looking forward to a new day, but reminiscing about days gone by. I hope your life is filled with pleasant memories, but always remember TODAY IS ANOTHER OPPORTUNITY TO CREATE ONE.
Have a wonderful day....and the weekend is upon us, so smile. Cheers 🍷
A woman has just caught her husband cheating. What should be the logical response? Does she commit an act of her own to even the score? Should she forgive him, and make things better? Or should she walk away from the marriage with her integrity intact?
I think we should take into consideration reasons why people cheat on their partners. Some of the common excuses given include, "I'm sorry, I just wanted to try something new" or "I'm sorry, I don't know how to tell you this but we're in love" and others just blame it on the devil. The first thing you'd realise is, the act has already been committed and nothing you say or do can take it back. So you'd move on to the next question, "what do we do now"? Some people want to take some time and cry about it, and that's alright but you have got to make a decision (fast). Is the marriage worth saving? Is there a guarantee this won't be a repeat process? Am I willing to forgive and make amends? Or do I walk away on my own terms now? How about a little transgression of my own...even the score?
A word of advice here:- evening the score can do no good. Building a house on lies and deceit is just prolonging the inevitable, as eventually things would get overheated and the marriage (like a battered vehicle) will breakdown too.
All the time, I hear people say "if I ever catch my wife cheating,it's OVER", but is that really the case? 90% of those talking are single men. Marriage is a sacred bond, that transcends the wedding ceremony and only those who experience it can explain it. Fidelity is essential between BOTH spouses, but regrettably these days a lot of couples see it as an afterthought. I believe, reconciliation should be the first option between cheating partners and only when such differences can't be resolved, should an amicable parting of ways be a course of action. Payback isn't even an option....it only leads to more hurt.
Thursday again, and we are feeling nostalgic ....not looking forward to a new day, but reminiscing about days gone by. I hope your life is filled with pleasant memories, but always remember TODAY IS ANOTHER OPPORTUNITY TO CREATE ONE.
Have a wonderful day....and the weekend is upon us, so smile. Cheers 🍷
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